


After watching too much Queer Eye: We’re in Japan, I started connecting the dots that Japanese society is embedded with deep social cleavages which do not allow for the normalisation of intimate, loving interactions and relationships. In fact, these cleavages encourage and perpetuate this engrained, societal mindset.
Japanese society appears to be very lonely and isolating, after reading one article in The Japanese Times which discussed how Japan has a patriarchal society, with many women and men often separating themselves from each other in Japanese pubs. If individuals would like to start dating, it may start off at matchmaking parties, however it seems that a mans financial status and economic value are more important than if their moral values align.
According to another article in The Japanese Times, sexless marriages in Japan are the norm and in fact, have been portrayed in the media positively back in the 1990s. This article also mentions a Durex (condom making company) Survey from 2005 which revealed out of a group of 317,000 participants from 41 countries, the Japanese population had the least sex, scoring a number of 45 times a year. In comparison, the world average was 103 times annually.
An Al Jazeera documentary also explored the lives of Hikikomori in Japan. Hikikomori individuals are people who are socially withdrawn from society, often having minimal contact with the outside world. According to an article by Kyodo News, Japanese government data have approximated that there are 1 million plus hikikomori people living in Japan.
The Al Jazeera documentary also explores the different circumstances as to how and why certain individuals become Hikikomori (some have disorders) as well as the challenges of being a Hikikomori. The documentary also briefly explores the lives of Futoko children (children who have a phobia of going to school).
This depression-inducing culture also relates to the high suicide rates in Japan. In 2014, more than 25,000 people committed suicide, with isolation and financial pressure being contributing factors.
I found this analysis of Japanese society intriguing, especially considering it’s stark contrast to Western society. Although the COVID-19 pandemic has temporarily induced measures of self-isolation, I think it’s interesting considering some Japanese have been living in isolation even prior to the outbreak of COVID, and it’s not just for months at a time, but for years. I genuinely hope change can occur in Japanese society. This engrained societal mindset devoid of love and intimacy, seems to have fatal implications.
Extra Resources:
https://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2020/06/13/national/social-issues/suicide-rates-help-japan/

